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My friends make fun of me because I'm fat...?

There are 2 people who are really offending me for the past few weeks. One of them is a friend of sorts, and the other is someone who offered to help me in my studies for money. Now the problem is, they crack all these jokes about my weight, such as:- "Why was panoramic view invented?" "So you could fit into the pictures." "What's the similarity between you and gmail?" "Both of you are always increasing in size." "Why was Japan hit by a Tsunami?" "Because you took a leak in the Pacific Ocean." Sure, these are funny jokes and I take them very sportingly, often laughing out loud myself. But at times I feel objectified, as if the only means through which both of them talk to me is by making fun of me. The first friend, let's call him X, is actually really wonderful, and I don't mind when he cracks such jokes because often he is appreciative and friendly. But the other friend, Y (whom I took help from for tuition) never takes my calls when I want to talk to him, has blocked all forms of communication except Facebook and email, and only ever writes on my wall to make fun of my weight. Both of them are from my school where I am well respected. But often, because of these 'jokes', people think it's okay to mess with me, while 2 months ago, they never did anything like that. Honestly, it hadn't bothered me much till now because I used to always laugh it off, saying I could take a joke, but these repeated jokes offend me more and more and affect my overall self-esteem. I am a 17 year old, bound for college this September. What should I do without completely cutting off communication with both these friends while still not trying to look like a stuck-up idiot? I once tried to remind X that he's fat too, but he reacted so strongly that I'm afraid to do it again. So confused, please help! Edit: I don't want to be offensive to them. That's the whole problem.

Public Comments

1. tell them im fat your ugly i can diet you unfortunately will be ugly forever
2. they are obviously not good characters and THEY need a makeover a personality one. But just becuz you may be a little thick doesn't mean you not beautiful inside AND outside. for example queen latifa has a beautiful face even if she's a little thick. so next time you look in the mirror make sure yo know your beautiful inside and outside
3. Talk to them. Talk to them separately or when they're together. Whatever makes you happy. Tell them how it makes you feel and that you think they should stop it. It's hurting your feelings and you just want them to stop. I'm sure they'll get that and will stop all the making fun and jokes. You can also go on a diet which will soon show and they might have nothing to make fun off later, so they'll just look for something else or shut up. I say talk to them. Don't think you're overreacting or being a drama queen. It's actually the right thing to do. It's better to do it soon before things get worse :) Good luck
4. I was going to say that you should cut off contact with Y and tell X that you don't really like when he makes jokes like that. Based on your last few sentences though, I don't think you will take that route. So the best advice I can think to give you is to 1. Think of some good jokes yourself to make back to these so-called "friends" and/or 2. Actually try to lose some weight. I'm not saying you need to make yourself extremely skinny or anything, but honestly, if you really are heavy enough to make these jokes justified, it would be a good idea for you to cut back on some junk food and drinks and try doing some exercise, just to drop a few pounds.
5. Well, I'm sorry X and Y are being so childish and my first thought was that neither of them were friends worth having, ecspecially Y. I suggest that because you like being X's friend, you ask him politely to stop making fun of you. He's probably doing it because he's insecure about the way he looks, or he's trying to look cool. Tell him that it hurts, but you still want to be friends (just dont tell him he's overweight if he reacted badly last time). Y sounds like a total jerk from what you said, but as I don't know him, I can't tell you to ignore him because I know how hard that can be. But I think that Y isn't the kind of friend you derserve, as you sound like a nice and confident person. Dont let him take that away from you. Be yourself. Dont lose who you are. Just ask him to stop and if he doesn't, then dont bother with the friendship. Let those who laugh know how much they hurt you, and if they are good, they'll stop.
6. They may very well not be aware of the fact that these jokes are offending you I understand what you are saying about being able to take a joke but their is a such thing as overkill as well normally I would say roll with the punches but this is ridiculous and if you tell them and they continue to do this they are not your friends anyhow so give them the benefit of the doubt and if it continues move on
7. You need to go up to them and tell them please stop making jokes about me and my weight because its starting to bother me. Or they might like you and think you are beautiful and thats the way they show it. Just dont play along with them of it will onley make them think its ok and it will get worse.
8. You call them friends? Honey, that's no friend at all. You should cut off communication with both of them & find some new friends!
9. Glad you are going to college. You will find that it is a very impersonal place, with students coming from all over, and close friendships hardly ever developing. Many of the students work, and don't have time for childish high school nastiness. You will leave them behind because you are in college. Their memory will fade away, which is good. After all, do you want to remember bad things? Start now, without telling anyone, on a little exercise every day. You don't need equipment. Try sit ups, push-ups, arm movements using a can of soup in each hand. Also, you must cut down on snacks, and second and third helpings. You can expect to drop a few pounds a week. By losing the weight now, instead of waiting until you are in your twenties, you will avoid the permanent sagging and wrinkling. That's why they don't show the tv weight loss winners in bathing suits. Because they are older, their skin is not elastic like yours.
10. Real friends would never treat you like that, stop fooling yourself that these people are your friends, they're just using you. Since you're letting them get away with it, other people are joining in, showing you they aren't your friends either. You dont need them. Unless you stand up for yourself and respect yourself, no one else will either. There are a ton of people out there who will actually respect and treat you like a person, dont settle for less. Do things you enjoy, sports,music, being with family & real friends, volunteer- you'll not only feel better about yourself, you'll meet people who share your interests and make new friends. It can take awhile to really get to know someone, be selective. There are so many opportunities out there.