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why do people think im gay?

OK, before anyone starts talking **** read the whole entire thing! well i wanna find out why people think im gay WHEN IM NOT. it started when i was in high school around my junior year. i wouldn't get it so much like i do now but every now and then people would ask me if i was gay because of my mannerisms and the way i hold my posture. I was raised with 2 females. my mother and sister and till this day our communication as a family and sibling has and is great. NOW, since i did grow up with 2 females, i guess i picked up some of the mannerisms that my mother has when she speaks. don't get me wrong I DON'T ******* DO FLARES OR VOGUE OR SPEAK SUPER FLAMBOYANT WITH MY GESTURES i just simply put gestures to my words, how i speak and tell stories. ive had many people tell me that they love the way i use my hands and speak, and others say that i makes me look feminine. that one doesn't bother me as much. i actually like it. but the one that does bother me is my posture. my mother is old fashion... EXTREMELY old fashion and ever since i was a kid she has told me that posture is always important. im a new age kid with old fashion manners. anyways, i don't know if its my posture or maybe the way i look but it makes me stand out when i go to a bar or club. I honestly feel the tension of the place when i walk in. I walk in like i own the place... calm, cool, standing tall and proud. i really do stand out when i walk through these places because once i sit at the bar people men/females are looking at me and i can feel they they are looking at me. but, they look at me in that "IS HE GAY" look! Its kills me because every time time i dance with a girl they always ask me "are you gay?" and honestly, it doesn't bother me like it use to but tonight it did. i went out with this friend of mine and i saw one of the HOTTEST girls in that joint. I mean...phsss total 10! i didn't ask her to dance. i usually just stretch out my hand and nod my head to signal LETS GO I WANNA DANCE WITH YOU...she quickly jumped and we started dancing. we were dancing for about 10 seconds when she pops out with it "Are you gay?" i said no but i guess she didn't believe me and said "i cant do this" NOW, i did asked if she had a man...she said yeah but he is somewhere in the club so i really don't know if she was saying it because of that but i felt like she didn't wanna dance with me because she thought i was gay. I have always been the kid back in high school who was fat,ugly and funny. surrounded by cute girls but never with because i wasn't cute. Now that im 23 i like to workout and take care of myself because i do. and i thought that by i guess being fit, i was going to attract more girls... GUESS NOT. I really don't know what to do to make myself look more masculine...ive tried almost everything and still nothing. I would post up a picture of me but i don't know how to set one up here. if any ladies out there wanna see what i look like and tell me what i need to MAKE MYSELF MORE MASCULINE ask for my facebook. send me a reply to my email protools97@yahoo.com. im asking for help here ladies. any guys out there that have had the same problem help me out fellas...! once again im not gay..im just tired of people thinking that i am when im not. and it doesn't help when your trying to get at women when the first impression of you is GAY. i remember when i was a ugly chubster MAD FEMALES.... now "OH HE'S GAY" peace!

Public Comments

1. Sorry to hear about what you are going through. Sometimes it's not always a bad thing because if a lady thinks your gay she might 'let her hair down' and really get to know you where as she might not be so kind to others. But this is the exception to the rule. The sad reality is you might have to copy what the masses do to be accepted by the masses. Do some weights, dress macho conservatively, copy the styles you see of other people you wish to be like. You might discover another side of yourself. In reality it's not you that has the problem, and it's them that need to be educated. A gay man might have all of the characteristics of a straight man but prefer men, likewise the other way around. But people don't want to accept this. And they're not going to change anytime soon. I wore some addidas tracksuit trousers and a t-shirt to the Gym in London town and no one cares. Infact many people have something similar. But I wear the same thing in a small town and I get the gay look and all that. Some people just need to grow up!
2. Start talking about pussy
3. ask your friends why some people think you are gay, if they are good friends they will tell you, they know you best :) maybe it's things you do and not paying attention to... good luck anyway :) http://www.howtoattractladies.org
4. Look, don't take it offensively. If it hurts you, tell them to back off, nicely. If they keep harassing you, tell em again to stop (a little firmer this time). For the third time, yell at them. any other time after that, sue them. that's what i would do at least