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What would u do if..?

I met this Man who is so wonderful, so carrying, he treats me as a queen. He told me that he loves me ( but me I still don't have love feelings to him) but I really admire him, he is so good and a real gentleman and not to mention how loyal he is. Once I went to his personal web site just being curious..and I was watching his albums when suddenly I saw an album called "being down", it was weird so I opened it and I could see lots of pictures of a woman with a masked man, the woman was like a BDSM mistress, one of the pictures she was ridding the man like a horse, other picture she was standing on the man's back..and other picture she was beating him.. it was crazy.. That made me confused...was he treating me like a Queen or like a mistress!!!.. he loves me and I really admire this man still doesn't love him..and he knows that.. and I want to be closer to him but.. the pictures made me so confused! I'm not that kind of girl who likes to beat up a man like that ! or treat him in that sick way! after that I told him what I saw, and he told me "Ok, if the pics bothers u I'll delete them" and he did! and then he asked my hand for marriage.. I'm just confuse.. I really respect the guy for his good manners but.. the pictures is so weird.. what would u do if u were in my place? PS: in cause that u r wondering I never had sex with him, I believe in clean relationship tell marriage He is a great guy, that's why I don't want to lose him. But he might deleted the picture taking my words as an order from a BDSM mistress!?!? I really don't like to be treated as a boss or something.. I need him to be a man not a slave :(..

Public Comments

1. "but me I still don't have love feelings to him" there's your answer. You got a lot going on but really the most important thing in all this is how you feel. Which apparently you feel this is a bad idea I'd go with that for now.
2. If you do not love him then you do not want to get married. As for the picture he may have a little fantasy of that which dose not mean that he wants to act on it. He sound like a really nice guy and truly respects your feeling by taking the picture down.
3. your a lucky girl but the thing you dont love him... it's pretty tough.. i think the best way there is to be honest with him. tell him that you dont want to treat you to be a queen..
4. You could either talk to him or just try treat him a bit as well... so while he's treating you like a queen, you treat him like a king? Sounds a bit silly, I guess. Since you said you don't love him I don't think you're ready to get married to him, at the moment. If you want it to be even terms then you should make it that way or talk about. Give it some time before you decide if he's really the man you're looking for... Good luck x