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I really think my boyfriend loves his dog more than me..what to do?

I met him online, and right away we had this AMAZING connection. He lives a ways away from me, so our relationship is long-distance...mainly communicating via e-mal and/or phone. We can stay on the phone for hours talking, but there is one huge problem...he has a slight obsession with his dog. He rescued her from a bad situation, she was being neglected horribly by her owners and he found her as a puppy. She's a girl, and when he's on the phone with me, he will just be like "omg she's so cute!" and start kissing her and talking to her all like "whooza goo girl?!?" while I'm just kinda sitting there. THEN he'll go into massive detail about exactly what she's doing, or tell a 10-minute long story about something funny she did. This happens rather frequently. Sometimes he gets in bad moods where he behaves like a complete a**hole to me (he admits that he does and says it's "nothing personal") and tells me that he's not in the mood to be all sweet and sentimental or anything with me, but he will dote on his dog right there on the phone and tell her how cute she is and cuddle with her while I have to listen to all these kissy noises and stupid baby talk on the end of the receiver. He's sent me countless pictures of her and sound clips of her...the first 5 were cute, but after awhile I was just like..."really??" He's an immense animal lover *(was vegetarian for awhile), and has referred to his dog as his "daughter," his "baby," and the "love of his life." He's referred to me as his "soulmate," his "true love," and the "love of his life." However, I talked to him the other day about how I felt about his dog, and how when I'm on the phone with him and he talks about her for 10 minutes how it irritates me. He didn't receive it well. At all. He said that no other girlfriend has felt this way, and how he's not going to take away from his dog to give to me. He said that he's had her for 4 years, long before I came into his life, and that he's not going to neglect her for my sake. I wasn't asking him to "neglect" her, just to be more considerate and think about the fact that maybe I don't want to hear about everything his dog does all the time. He didn't get it, and said it "turned him off" that I felt that way. He's a very caring, nurturing person...he was basically a dad for a long tme to his cousin's son when he was neglected by his own father. I don't know if it's that he's just extremely nurturing, or if this is just weird and that he really does love her more than he loves me, his human soulmate. This has created a big wall between us, and I don't know how to go about fixing it without pissing him off. He's claimed that past girlfriends have "loved" his dog, but it also sounds to me like his past girlfriends worshipped him and he could do no wrong in their eyes...whereas I don't take any crap from him. I just don't know what to do. Help.

Public Comments

1. If he loves his dog more you, than he's a dumbas#, you need to dump him and go for a guy who DOES like you. I would never date a woman who I liked a pet more than I did her, that'd be really weird. But don't jump to conclusions and assume this is true with him, maybe he's mad at you for something you did. But, if he really does love his dog more than you for whatever odd reason, then yes, boot his as#.
2. Get another boyfriend. You don't want an animal worshiper. Plus, you would have to be a complete idiot to love an animal more then a person, your gf at that...
3. Nah. Dogs just need extra attention. I wudnt get paranoid bout it!
4. ok well first of all have you even met him face to face? have u had sex not to be in your personal business but it matters. because it looks like ur gonna have to give him something his dog cant, and that would want him to want u more show u attention. but im a dog lover but thats just out there that hes like that about a dog. but in order for you to really change ur gonna have to meet him and spend time with him away from his dog