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I'm an inconfident fat guy :(?

How can I ever get a girl, I'm 19 years old, six feet tall, 235 pounds. I feel so insecure around girls that look like their about the size of my leg haha. Once I get comfortable around people I'm no longer shy, but meeting new people I hold myself back, and I've been told I'm funny and random. I used to weigh 315 pounds, I started going to the gym and got down to 235ish in about 7 months. I still want to lose about 25 pounds, and I've been lifting weights. My confidence is higher, but I'm just not a conversationalist, I can never think of anything to talk about. so some random pictures of me: http://img399.imageshack.us/img399/271/n5618395924494506535bd3.jpg http://img516.imageshack.us/img516/5152/n5618395923140056144vx4.jpg http://img166.imageshack.us/img166/6003/n5618395924055328214qb8.jpg BEFORE AND AFTER picture: (just weighed myself, now 234 not 239) http://img511.imageshack.us/img511/5744/beforeafter3gj4.png How can I boost my confidence, and be a better talker?

Public Comments

1. sweetie it's not confident =] prettydangflyy
2. you boost your confidence thru learning to love yourself. you're working out & losing weight so buddy stop dissing yourself. besides my friends & I always check out the guys with personality, a good sense of humor and LOYALTY. so dont hold back. you got a lot to offer, and once you get yourself figured out youll be beating girls of with a stick.
3. I like big guys; I only weigh 130 but I only date guys over 200 pounds. They are more easy-going, fun, laid back and are better cuddlers. They are also better in bed b/c they try harder to please. I know plenty of women who like big guys; you just have to be confident. Confidence is sexy. Women can't help but be attracted to it.
4. Thats great achivement to lose the weight, you should be very proud of yourself and do not feel bad about your weight. Think of yourself as a great achiever when you talk to people and ignore how you think your leg looks. I'm a girl myself and I think you look great. A great conversation you could talk about is how you lost your weight and how you pushed yourself to do it. Your funny and random i hear, so tell them stories about something random you've done that is funny or a good joke. Goodluck
5. Well, about your current size (not age because I'm a mom with a teenage daughter). My favorite body type for a man is at least six feet tall and two hundred pounds, because I'm tall. I'm not obese, but I don't want to be heavier than the guy I'm with. I do not really like lanky, skinny guys at all, because I want them to weigh about 50 pounds more than me. So, I'm sure I'm not alone in this. As far as I'm concerned, you have an envious position concerning body type and height. And congratulations on the weight you've lost. The only thing you may not like (which I do like) your weight is changable. (I would think you wouldn't want to get too far below 190 at the most unless you are really small boned.) Think of men who are short. They can never grow taller. So I think you should think, I am handsome and hot! About talking. The best way to talk to people is just to ask them all about themselves. Be as interested in them and their interests as you can be...without being a stalker type. But, if you do this, they will respond to your warmth and interest. People will automatically gravitate toward you, if they sense you like them. And if you smile a lot, and are just friendly, and positive in general. Also, use good posture. Don't stoop. A book How to Win Friends and Influence People may help you win some more popularity. Self-esteem and confidence is important to exude. And I know you don't have it, but just start acting like you do, because you have every reason to have self-confidence, and no reason not to. I think you are still reacting as though you weigh 315 lbs, but you aren't that person anymore. I wouldn't worry. I think you'll drive the girls crazy. Just hold out for the right girl. Be picky.
6. aww you were a cutie even before the weight loss, you are still a cutie. Being overweight, I had to find ways to boost my confidence. I was like you, in some ways i still am. Whenever i first meet people, i am shy/quiet. You have nothing to me inconfident about. You have a great smile. A cute face. A great body. You lost a ton of weight! You have nothing to worry about! Just be yourself. Typical advice, but it goes far. Let people know who you are. Let your personality shine. Talk about your interests and what you dont like. Make some jokes. Good Luck, and great job on losing weight :D