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My sister is convinced shes fat? help me?

My little sister whos 12 (13 in june) thinks shes too fat to wear a bikini this summer. She weighs 90-95 pounds and is about 4'11" She does sit ups and crunches everyday and is getting defined abs [[ 2 or 4 pack]] (it funny cuz shes only 12&has abs) she always askes me if she too fat and sometimes she even takes pictures of her stomach to see if she looks fat and she doesnt but still says she has "blubber" or "rolls". Shes fit and she looks very healthy but doesnt seem to believe me, our parents, or her friends. She can wear a bikini right??Shes a size 1 in jeans& is usually a small or medium in shirts (depending on which store) i calculated her bmi and shes pretty close to being underweight, im a little worried. &dont even ask to post a pic cuz im not going to. What do i do?? shes not fat at all....... Thanks so much :D

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1. I think you're doing the right thing asking for help - but you should talk to your parents about it if you feel she's at risk for an eating disorder. Of course she's fine to wear a bikini - anyone can. I assume you're the older sister so you should help her understand that she looks great the way she is. You're a role model for her and you can show her how to feel comfortable with herself without being underweight.
2. just tell her shes not fat and make sure she eats dont let her become anorexic, she is probably not fat but she is not that skinny either, im 13,5' and 85-88lbs
3. Well; show her an actual fattie. and tell her she s in great shape. really, she sounds pretty skinny.
4. she sounds perfect to me and seems the right weight for her height there is probably more people younger than her that weight more than she does. that what i think when i feel fat. anyone can wear a bikini whatever size or shape, but she can deffo. size 1 is slim and obviously a small is small make her seee sense shes not and all her excercising is good, she must be canny toned
5. Talk to her and get your mom to talk to her too, and even her friends, she might listen to them better than anyone else. Tell her what the average weight for a girl of her age and reassure her how beautiful she is and tell her your concerned. Is She might be being bullied at school? Ask her if there is anything going on, People might be telling her she is fat and she believes them. Good Luck! = )
6. Start agreeing with her
7. Tell her get a hold of her self because all girls say "Im Fat". Its like a teenager thing to say lots of girls at my school say there fat but there not at all. sometimes i say i wish i was small as you are! because im pregnant right now so those girls who are not fat should be happy there not pregnant or obetie when they are thats when they can cry around being fat. i say you have a talk with your sister sit her down and just have a big talk with her.
8. nothing you can do. shes the right weight for her height though because shes short, just stop worrying and let her go on. if she wants a better body let her theres nothing wrong with that. everyone says im skinny or as my mom puts it "skin and bones" yet im 5'3" and weigh 114 haha. but yah. I know im not FAT but I would like to lose some weight / tone up
9. Well, I feel there may be some underlying issues here. Your sister may be in the beginning of an eating disorder. If she is thin, and still thinks sh is fat, she has some serious body imagine issues that need to be dealt with. Tell your sister how good she looks. Compliment her, make her feel beautiful. Also, watch her eating habits. She could quite easily fall onto the road of eating disorders. Never the right way to go. It honestly doesn't sound like your sister needs to loose ANY weight, if anything, gain it. However don't pressure her into gaining weight or eating. It could force her the other direction. You also mentioned she sees "blubber, or rolls". That is a worrying sign. Your sister sounds like she has a distorted body imagine, which if left untreated could turn into dangerous eating habits. My sister is anorexic. She is currently in hospital. She also started out thinking she was fat. We caught it a little too late really, but thankfully, you haven't. You need to alert your parents to this, no matter how little it may seem to be. If after 1-2 weeks of talking to you and your parents she still believes she is fat, I would highly recommend that she sees a specialist. Its best if her body image can be sorted out before anything drastic happens. Good luck, God Bless. =)
10. Ok first off she's roughly 5'0, so she should be around 110 pounds. Your little sis is not fat, heck she's underweight as far as im concerned. She's at an age where she is still growing and needs to eat to get proper proetien, vitamins, and minerals. Tell her she's not fat, and she needs to stop worrying about her weight. If she doesnt belive you have her email me and I will get the point across to her that she's not fat and is borderline anxoerixic. My email is iron_31@hotmail.com
11. First of all, make sure your parents are well aware of all the lengths she is going through to be thin. She sounds like she is developing an eating disorder. She needs to see a medical doctor, perhaps they can convince her that her weight is fine, and it sounds like she should see a therapist as well, because her issue isn't what she LOOKS like, but how she PERCEIVES herself. She'll think poorly of herself no matter what she looks like if these issues aren't resolved. This brings me to my main point...it doesn't matter what she looks like, or whether she can wear a bikini or not (I don't think 12 year olds should be wearing them anyway though). What matters is that she learns to VALUE herself. Instead of complimenting her looks as some have suggested, compliment HER...who she is as a person...that she's smart, funny, creative, thoughtful...whatever. She has to learn that she has value regardless of whether her body fits some cookie cutter image that she deems as being right.