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Shes not fat, right??

My little sister whos 12 (13 in june) thinks shes too fat to wear a bikini this summer. She weighs 90-95 pounds and is about 4'11" She does sit ups and crunches everyday and is getting defined abs [[ 2 or 4 pack]] (it funny cuz shes only 12&has abs) she always askes me if she too fat and sometimes she even takes pictures of her stomach to see if she looks fat and she doesnt but still says she has "blubber" or "rolls". Shes fit and she looks very healthy but doesnt seem to believe me, our parents, or her friends. She can wear a bikini right??Shes a size 1 in jeans& is usually a small or medium in shirts (depending on which store) i calculated her bmi and shes pretty close to being underweight, im a little worried. &dont even ask to post a pic cuz im not going to. What do i do?? shes not fat at all....... Thanks so much :D now that i think about it she doesnt eat a lot. At meals she only eat a couple bites and sometimes skips the meal all together.

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It sounds like your sister might need professional help. Body Dysmorphic Disorder is a serious thing and can cause her serious problems in the future.
She is not fat. Honestly she may need counseling. She may have a disorder that could cost her her health or life. Treated early enough she may not suffer any physical harm. I see many people here concerned about your sister, but many are saying to watch her for problems. From what you wrote you are already seeing problems. Please do not wait, start now learning about counseling options.
shes not fat.. i would be more than happy if i was a size1 i would probably be wearing a bikini everywhere
She is probably anorexic, keep an eye on her and talk to your mom, or a trusted adult that she will respect. Don't wait too long if this continues.
Your sister needs psychological help. She has body dysmorphic disorder. What she sees when she looks at herself and what you see when you look at her are 2 different things.
Keep track of her ... sounds like she's headed for anorexia ... she definitely seems to be exhibiting symptoms of Body Dysmorphic Disorder: http://www.healthyplace.com/Communities/Eating_Disorders/peacelovehope/bdd.html Good luck!
Not fat. What do you do? Tell her she is obsessing and that you are going to have to do an intervention on her and send her away to a clinic for people with eating disorders. And tell her that her priorities are messed up if she wants people to think about her primarily because of how she looks.
Hiya, I know how you feel, I was suffering from depression because I thought I was "fat" yet my bmi was 19. Get your sis to read this message, shes not fat, she sounds perfect to me, you need to try and get more confidence in your body, at that age you should be worrying about clothes, friends, school etc. Not whether you are overweight or not. If I could give you any advice right now it would be learn to love yourself because you wont get anywere in life from being negative about yourself!! trust me I learned the hard way, im jealous you sound that fit!!! xo
Your sister isn't too fat. If anything, she's just about right. Try to get her away from that television that's probably featuring anorexic models. Good luck!
She is definitely not fat. In fact, she sounds practically underweight. She should definitely see a doctor before her condition turns into a serious disorder. I hope she's okay! I hope that helped!
She sounds like she's bordering on anorexia. Make sure she's eating regularly and drinks plenty of water. People with anorexia usually have a distorted vision of themselves in the mirror and it's something that she has to work through on her own. Be supportive if it is the case. As to her weight, a lot of my friends are 4'11, 5' and it's very hard for them to gain over 100 lbs. As long as she's not skipping meals or eating very little at meal times, I wouldn't worry too much about it.
She's not fat, but I'm sure she thinks she is. Problem is, there's no real way to convince her because she's poisoned by the media and her friends that are all fighting to be thin so that they can be "popular". She needs to speak to a professional, or somebody that has gone through what she has. It's not going to be easy, but then these things rarely are.
It sounds like she has body image issues and is headed for an eating disorder. Talk to your parents about getting her some help before she gets any more obsessed with her weight.
Just be sure that she IS eating. Non-fat foods very often lack other essential nutrients. She is in the largest growth period in her life, right now, and could easily damage her health if she obsesses over weight to the point of excessive dieting. She's not done growing (in height), yet. Tell her so. You can also let her know that if she consistently diets through her dawning sexual maturity, she will not grow breasts. If she's so concerned about her appearance, let her know that. Boys like skinny - but they like boobs, too.