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My dad is having an affair and it's killing me inside just thinking about it...?

Last year around in June my dad came home from Iraq to see my younger twin brothers graduate from high school in 2008. My parents made a surprise trip to Pismo Beach, CA after my brother's come home from Senior Sober Grad party. The next day my dad plugged in his small hard drive cord to my lap top and a bunch of pictures poped up. And some of them were more than just a friendly pose. I confronted him and asked, "Who's that lady your hugging next to?" He told me, "Ahh. Don't worry about it." I said "Ok and already forgot about it. So later in the hour I packed up all my stuff to get ready for our Family trip to Pismo Beach. I'm really excited since it's my first time going to the beach. *2009 Since I'm the only one in my home who signs on msn I once in a while sign in to take a break from talking on my cellphone. I checked my hotmail account the other day and since hotmail has upgraded where you can read your friend's recent new display pictures, headlines, etc. and I notice a picture of my dad displaying a romantic pose with the same woman I saw a year ago. I was like, "What?" And his headline was something like... "I'll never let you go sweetheart. Love You blah blah blah" I defiantly know the difference between my mom and the same woman I saw a year ago. And it breaks my heart that my dad choose to do this behind my mom's back. How am I going to confront my mom about this? She's the one who bust her ass to take of me and my siblings (I'm 21, 19, 19, 18) during hard times and even if we're not on the same page about life I still think no woman deserves this. Idk? I signed in on msn 6 seconds after I saw that picture and headline and I guess my dad saw me online on msn and he kept IM me saying "What picture did you see?" "Close the window." etc. I feel like if I sign in on msn anymore I'm ganna burst into tears and feel depress. Idk what to do? Just watching my mom holding her cellhphone every night to see if my dad is ganna calls is killing me just thinking it's not the same anymore. Q: How did you deal with tough situation like this? What are solution to be stress free when your still living at home, going to school at local Community College?

Public Comments

1. 1ask your dad why/if you dont read the next step 2 show him how good you think your mom is by asking her to making breakfast or a romantic evening 3 find a lil more about the woman go spying with your friends 4 if you followed step three now its time to ask you dad if he does abuses you go tell your mum they may need councling
2. tell him: if you dont stop or if you dont tell her soon im gonna have to tell her. show him how good your mom iss.
3. As hard as it will be, you must keep quiet and act like you know nothing. This is between your mom and dad (although your mom don't know). Just thinking about it, I'd be so quick to try and do something but the best thing to do is let things happen without you being part of it. If you say something, you'll end up in the middle of something that has NOTHING to do with you. Pray for you mama that she gains strength because she'll definitely need it later on. I suggest you join clubs to take your mind off things.
4. That is a very complex situation. I'm sorry you're going through it. I think you should tell your dad that his secret is out. Tell him what he needs to hear, that he is being dishonest and braking your heart because of his selfishness. If I were you (and please don't think I'm claiming I know what it feels like because I don't) I would give him the chance to tell your mom the truth and end the affair or if he chooses not to be honest then you'll tell your mother yourself. I'm usually all for minding your own business but an affair its something pretty low from any married person and I think if your dad doesn't have the basic decency to talk about it with his spouse you should tell your mother. But again, I don't know what it is like from your end. Whatever you decide to do, good luck.