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Is it weird to keep a picture of my deceased daughter up with my other kids pictures?

My daughter passed away 9 years ago. She was 7 years old. I have 3 other children who are 12, 10, & 8. I have their pictures on the wall in a grouping of 4. I was wondering if and when I should make it a grouping of 3. I don't want to forget my first daughter, but obviously her picture is the only one that doesn't change every year. I do have her picture in other rooms of the house. I'm just wondering about the one grouping of the kids

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Thats all up to you. There's no right or wrong answer here. Do what you feel is best.
Your deceased daughter is still your daughter. Death does not change her relationship with you.
thats a tough one, probably take it down in a few more years..
I would never take it down. They have a sister, you had 4 children. There is no reason not to remember her, and no reason not to do that with a picture. THe grouping should stay a group of 4... that is my opinion.
no not at all i would do the same thing if you can deal with it then its fine if it makes you depressed or whatever then maybe take it down just until you can handle it but NO that is in remebrence of her keep it up there.
Not weird. Sorry for your loss. I would leave the family photo up.
Its not weird at all, buddy. Its just fine.
No it's totally normal. Sorry for your lose
No no no. It is absolutely fantastic and great that you can do it! Some parents can't and it is sad - they are closing a door on a lot of good memories. What I suggest is that her frame be different then the other childrens. If you are changing their pictures every year then hers has to be a little different so it stands out [or in]... If the other children's pictures are in black frames, have hers in a flower patterened frame.
Its nice to keep her picture up
Keep it up. Nothing is wrong with having it there.. That is a wall with your children.. ALL of your children. Just because she is no longer with us in this world does not mean that she is no longer your daughter. Besides, having it up there is the constant reminder of the blessing that God gave you and you can remember all of those good times that you had. I am sincerly sorry for your lost but I know she is in a better place and she is looking down on you and your family each and every day.
My condolence If you want to keep it up I would she is part of the family she's just in Heaven that's all . How do her brothers and sisters feel about it ? God Bless you and your Family...
its not weird.....its normal. I have a picture of my deceased daughter on my walls too. SHe died at 16 days old(she would have been 8 now) The picture doesnt change, but most people in my house know who she is, and so dont question it. My other kids ask me things about her all the time(most were born after she was) You should do what you feel is most comfortable for you and other members of your family. Her brothers and sisters might like seeing her, it may be a way to help remember her.
I would keep her picture in the group. She is part of the group and always will be, even though she is no longer physically here. You will always be her mom and she will always be your daughter, death doesn't change that fact.
No its ok
I don't think so at all! She's still your child and you will always love her....there's no reason she shouldn't have her place of honor with the rest of your children.
This is entirely up to you..don't let anyone pressure you into changing whats right for you....my condolences
((((hugs))))) Leave the pic up. She is and always will be your daughter.
If it keeps you dwelling on the subject take it down and let her go. If it is just a pleasant reminder every so often and dosn't make you sad or anything leave it up. Just as long as it dosn't make you spend to much time thinking about it.
Not weird, not weird at all. I think it's healthy to keep her there. You don't want to forget her, you can't forget her, plus, her siblings don't need to forget her. It's part of life, it's your story, keep it as is. If you want to take it down, again, it's your choice, nothing is weirs. You have your own reasons. And that's okay.
You keep it up as long as you want. You will know when it is time to take it down. Whether it is one month or five years is quite right.
Its Okay to keep your daughter's picture with her siblings in a group form. (by the way my condolences on your loss. I am a mother of 3 healthy & grown children. I do not know what it is to lose a child I shudder to think) Perhaps later since you do have other pictures of the child in other rooms then you can take the one of the groupings of the siblings separate when you are ready.
Personally, I would never take that picture down. She is still just as much a part of the family now as she was when that picture was taken. Hold on to the memories as much as you can. I'm sorry for your loss.
I think so. I'm sure that you have a tender place in your heart for your child, but like the Bible says, there is a time for the "dead to tend for the dead". Your kids hardly knew her.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. There is nothing weird about leaving your deceased child's picture up. If you are comfortable with having the pictures, then leave them up.
I would say it is ok she was and still will be in u guys heart forever so she is still part of the family she is just watching over u guys now so leave her picture where ever u desire sorry to hear about your lost tell the kids i said hi and u have a nice day.
Which ever makes you feel most comfortable,maybe ask your other children what they think, and whatever decision you make, don't feel guilty and that she will always be there.
Hi. First of, I'm sorry for your loss.. it's perfectly normal to put a picture of your daughter with the other pics of your kids since she is still your daughter and if helps for her picture to remind you that, now, she is an angel in heaven,looking down on you and your family...then, it's perfectly fine to do so. Mementos are reminders of the joy that she was and still is 9 yrs. after she went back home to the Lord. God bless you and your family.
i would leave the picture up in your heart there will always be the four
I think you are a very strong woman that made me cry but I would keep her there if it's not painful for you or your children. Do you smile when you see her beautiful little face looking down at you? Just know she's watching you and I'm so sorry for everything you have had dealt your way smile sweets!
Sorry for your loss. I would never take it down. She is still your daughter, she's just in heaven now. But it is totally up to you and what you feel comfortable with.
Of course not. I have many photos of my Grandmother up because I miss her and love to look at her. If I had a deceased child, the pic would never come down. It is healthy to remember those we loved and the loving things about them. That child will always be a part of your life. I know my Grandmother is always part of the family, deceased or not. Her pic is in the nursery and in my bedroom. I am sorry for your loss, angel hugs to you.
No it isn't. She is still your daughter, no matter what. Even though the photo doesn't change every year, you will always be a mother of 4, and you should be proud of them all equally. The fact is she will always be 7 to you and her siblings so it would be silly to take it down. If it upsets you, move the photo, but at the end of the day, your kids are your kids, you will never forget any of them, no matter what. Making it a group of 3 is like not acknowledging you have 4 kids, and i don't think she would think that was fair, do you?
Thats up to you if you want to take it down. Shes still your daughter, so if you dont want to then dont. Im sure you will not forget about her because you took one picture down. If you dont know what you want to do, may I suggest that maybe you have the 3 children on the wall, and then on a small table under the group of pictures you have your daughter. That way they are still together, but then you can put up a new photo of each child every year.