My Funny Picture

Why do guys act weird after finally having sex with a girl that is not their girlfriend?!?

Here's the situation. I have been really good friends with a guy from work for the past 3 years. There has always been an attraction there between us. A couple years ago we could have had something, but I was with someone else and told him I couldn't be with him. Now he has a girlfriend. Regardless of the girlfriends and boyfriends that have been in the picture, the STRONG attraction has always been there and we have always acknowlegded it. To make a long story short, we actually slept together a couple nights ago. It was a crazy night...picture built up sexual tension for the past 3 years being released in one night...nuts. Now I feel like he is totally avoiding me, even though I want nothing from him except our friendship! It's almost as if he thinks I want something more from him. What do guys do this?? Why can't they be cool and nice after sex. I feel that this is what he wanted since day one and now that he got it...it's See Ya. Ugh. Please explain guys....

Public Comments

1. Oh the tangled webs we weave...
2. You slept with him even though you were both in relationships? Its obvious. He thinks your easy. your no challenge now. Maybe you were'nt good enough for him. or maybe he feels guilty. You both should be ashamed of yourselves.
3. guys are wierd,i should now cause im one myself. but really in that type of situation i would freak out cause i wouldnt what the girl to think i wnat to be with her.But ive learned that in most cases girls just like sex with no strings attached.Sooo in closing i would just tell your frend that all u wanted is sex and thats all.once u tell him he'll be cool for round 2
4. cuz he feels really bad! he loves his girl! why would u do that? i hate girls who make guys cheat on their girlfriend
5. He got what he wanted now. He doesn't want anything to do with you anymore. Guys do this when they aren't mature enough to handle an adult situation like this. Or, it could have just not been as good as what he expected.
6. It is difficult to explain such a thing due to the variety of feelings he may or may not feel. Maybe he feels uncomfortable because he felt like he underperformed. Maybe he is not sure how he is supposed to act. Perhaps he is feeling that he wants much more than a friendship now but he is attempting to supress this by avoiding you. Who knows...but you need to get with him and discuss the issue. Try and incorporate it into something you two always enjoyed doing or visiting as friends.
7. It is an immature emotional level---and he did get what he wanted--so did you--to a point. Sex is supposed to be an expression of love and caring--AND RESPECT--something not shown by either one of you. It happened--he probably is having second thoughts and you, being a woman, have different emotional feelings about it--that's natural. You both got it out of your systems---not what you thought it would be---get over it---and don't do it again---and if cheating is apart of it--you two are WRONG and you have some serious issues to contend with on a maturity level. Better think about this---you both lack respect for all parties involved and yourselves.....excuses about tension and all that---BS--not acceptable. Show some self control and consider it a learning experience. You two are not the first to ever do this---plenty of people make this misjudgement and get through it--so will you. Smile, be nice---don't beat yourself up over it. Good luck
8. After sex men are programmed not to call...MAN LAW j/k Probably he you just need to talk.