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Who thinks this is strange and am I weird for thinking this way?

I went to my friends wedding almost a year ago. We have been friends since 7th grade, so for 23 years we have been good friends. She had some professional photographers at her wedding and didn't get any pictures of her and her new husband with me or my family or any of her life long friends and families. But did get pics with a friend she has only known for about 6 years. Am I strange for feeling this way or should I let it go? Please be nice, and serious answers only.

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thats weird, why didn't you take your camera?
It was HER wedding. Let it go. I don't think she meant to exclude you.
I can understand why you are upset, but it's your friends wedding and she may feel closer to the people she took pictures with. What would have been nice is if you pulled her aside for a minute and then asked if she would take a picture with you with your personal camera. That way you would have had a personal keepsake and your feelings wouldn't have been hurt. I'd say it probably wasn't a personal snub but on her wedding day, things were probably absolutely chaotic.
You need to make you questions more clearer
You have a good reason to feel upset and hurt. When we first discover that somone we have known has grown away from us, it is often a very painful experience. But don't hold on to the feeling because change is inevitible. She has moved to a different place in her life. You are better off in a less egocentric world with other friends.
No you are right .
she probably thinks she still needs to try and impress her newer friends. you, however, she knows that you know she cares no matter what becuase you've been friends so long. don't worry about it, i'm sure she didnt mean it to hurt you.
maybe she forgot.
Maybe you should have mentioned it to her. Weddings can be so overwhelming. Maybe she wasn't thinking? ask her.
Not getting a picture with your new husband and your family is the strangest part. Don't worry about not taking a picture with you or other lifelong friends.
Talk to her about it. My mom and dad divorced after 22 years of marriage. My mom married someone else and my dad married my moms best friend of 30 years. They're no longer friends anymore, if you ask me its for the better. You're supposed to make new friends and keep the old, so maybe its just a phase. Talk to her about it and tell you how you feel. But then again it was her wedding day and I know when I got married, I had forgotten all about takin pics of my 2 best friends that I've had for 13 years. I felt so bad. It will hurt her more than it will you.
I think you are over reacting slightly. it was her big day and she probably never even thought of who to put in the photos at the time. She probably ahd so much on her mind she never thought so dont worry. But make sure you keep her out of your photos at your wedding!
Maybe it was an oversight. I'm sure she was really busy, so perhaps she wasn't even thinking about it. Try not to stress about it too much hun; just be thankful that you got to share her big day with her. I'm sure she's just as happy and glad that you were there, as you were. No worries. :-)
Could be an oversight. Ask for them. The bride may have assumed you got them and be unaware of the problem.
no you must of felt a little betrayed and jealous at the same time. its not un common.
I don't think you are strange for feeling as you do. I had a similar experience once. But at the end of the day you have to consider two things: 1st. It might have been an oversight. RARE is the bride I've seen who didn't seem to have 1000 things on her mind all through the wedding day. 2nd. For 23 years you've been friends. In 23 years how many times has she slighted you? How many times has she come through for you? We are all capable of screwing up from time to time. If her overall track record is solid I'd be inclined to let it go. On the other hand if there is a trend building here, well, maybe you two have some issues to work out.
As it being a big day, it probally didnt "phase" her, at the moment, but afterwards, she's probally noticing that she didnt get any pics and is regreting this now. Too much on her mind at the time. Yes to you it might be hurtful, but realize also she might not have intended that or realized it. Just too much going on. Next time you visit or ya'll go out somewhere, you take the camera, and make a point to get those pics of all of ya together! As you said, your good friends! And good friends let things go easily, thats why your still good friends!
I can understand howhurt you must be feeling. I would talk to her. I cant imagine what explaination she could possibly come up with that would make you feel better. All i can say is I think that was very uncaring on her part. Im sorry that happened to you.
It's understandable, but let it go. The bride was occupied with her major event and the future. I'm sure that she did not mean to slight you. In a weird way taking it personally makes you more important at that moment than I think you actually were. I'm also sure that your long term relationship has been very important to both of you.
Let it go !! A bride and groom have WAY TOO much to think about on their day than did they get the perfect pictures that they want. I wouldn't let it bother me ... Have duplicates made of the pictures you took with them and you and your long time friends and share those with them.
I'm at a loss as to why you weren't in the wedding party to begin with and yes I think its strange. When the pictures are being shown maybe you should bring up in a joking way that "Gee, I don't see me in any of these beautiful pictures with my best friend." Or something to that effect. Good luck but I wouldn't push the issue. In the future I would snap my own for keepsakes.
You know what, when i got married it completely slipped my mind to take pictures with my closest friends and my mom. I don't know if it was just the heat of the moment or if i just decided to be a complete jerk to everyone close to me. All i know is that i felt so completely horrible when i realized what i had done. And i know i had done it unintentionally. It's not like i actually tried to avoid taking pictures with those closest to me. Therefore, i really don't think you're strange for feeling left out or sad. It's a really mean thing to do. Take pictures with casual people and ignore those that have known you for years. I know that if i could go back, i'd take pictures with my mom and best friend and sister and dad and my aunt and other close friends. So what i think you should do is talk to your friend. Or let it go. From my own experience, i know i didn't mean to leave people out. It just happened. I was so busy. I was rushed. It was so wierd. My heart was racing. Ect. But if you saw that your friend made a conscientous effort to take pictures with that other friend and completely ignored the rest of you, you should talk to her. Really just tell her how you feel. Don't make her feel too bad. But make sure she knows that you felt left out and you wanted some pictures to remember her wonderful moment. And maybe you could take pictures of you guys together after that as a compensation or whatever. That's what i do now. As a type of compensation, i try and take pictures of me with everyone close to me as much as possible. Just to prove to them that i'm not forgetting them and i want our images together forever. Also, you have to think about how she didn't take any pictures with you or your family as well as any of her lifelong friends and families. Therefore, she didn't just cut you out. Which means she didn't just target you. So that should make you feel a little better. Just be honest with her. But hear her out. And when all is said and done, let it go. There are more moments to come.
Generally Wedding pictures are only taken of the bridal party and the bride and grooms family As for the pics with the friend she has known for only a few years I could only think 1) Has she been with her more over the last few years ie:daily bases 2) this could be strange thought but being from a small town this person could somehow be related to the grooms family as well as being a friend to the bride 3) she could have been the one who introduced them to each other .Let the green eyed monster go and just be happy for your friend
Truth is, wedding pictures are VERY EXPENSIVE, and she probbaly only could afford "one picture with a friend"...But, it is a little strange that she didnt choose you as her "one friend picture"..Well, for whatever reason, it was her choice..Even though she knew you for 23 years, maybe she has a greater connection to the newer friend. I mean, I'm sure she loves your DEARLY--and you have her special place in her heart.. With me, if I had to choose my wedding picture--I would choose my friend that I knew since 5th grade--we've been friends for 20 years and we were even born in the same hospital....But, I do have other friends who I share a connection with...I mean, are you guys Best, Best, Best Friends--like she's the one you'd call if you gad a miscarriage, or if your husband just cheated on you? OR, is that you are close, but you dont delve into the deep crisis situations that true Best, Best, Best Friends share?? Look, I was in a situation like you..There was another girl that I considered my Best Friend in college--but I noticed that she always chose this other girl for special occasions--it hurt.But I realized that she simply felt more sisterly abd close ith her--so I backed off a little. Sure enough, she didnt really keep in touch with me, and things fell off..So, I moved on--Life is Too Short to cling to a friendship that is 1 way... I mean--maybe your freind is just CLOSER to that lady--thats all. Maybe they shared health problems and parents dying and other crisises that made them very close. It doesnt mean she doesnt love you--but she obviously made her choice...It doesn't negate you and your role in her life. .. So, let it slide, and see how much she makes the effort to reach out to you in the future as a test of how close you really are...And, if it really really bothers you--calmly ask her about it--and even make a joke out of it so she wont feel too bad. Just say "Um, yah, I could see that I wasnt on your VIP list, so I'll just make cut and paste my photo into your wedding pictures on my computer tomorrow", you get what I mean. Peace
maybe she wanted only to have a pic with the person she considers her sole best friend. sometimes it doesnt matter how long you know someone its how well you get on with a person that counts. You havent actually stated how you feel but my guess is you mean you feel jealous and insecure about the friendship, in which case you're not strange cos thats a pretty normal way to feel. Your friend sounds like the wierd one, i dunno if she actually did mean to snub you, but if she keeps doing it let go and distance yourself, and if she wants to still be your mate she'll call you more.
You have every right to be up set.But she probably thought she got pictures of you and you're family.When it comes to being a bride you have about 90 thousand things on you're mind.and she thought she took pictures with you.Not knowing that she didn't take them with you.I would just let it go and still be friends with her.Because I'm sure she didn't forget on purpose.good luck
When you're the center of attention, like the bride, it's really hard to pay attention to everyone. I'm sure she didn't mean to exclude you. She was probably being pulled every which way. Here are a few questions for you though.... Have ya'll remained close? or is she closer to the new friend? Did the new friend ASK for the picture? Did you ask for a picture? Like I said the main thing is it's hard to spread yourself out like that when everyone wants some of your time on your special night.
As a bride, especially with more than one photographer, you just kind of smile on command because so many pictures are being taken. Its highly possible that she didn't even realize who was in the picture with her. The pictures could also have been the result of this other friend and her family approaching the photographer to say "we want pictures with the bride." Please don't assume that the bride specifically requested pictures with these people and not with you. Also, she might have told the photographer that she wanted pictures with you and your family, but they were never taken. We provided our photographers with lists, and they still missed a few shots we would have liked. I would ignore it and move past it.
Please let this go!! A bride can only worry about so much when its her wedding day. The last thing on her mind is making sure that she got the right pictures taken! Give her a break. I take it that you are not married or if you are you did not have a big wedding.
I got married at the end of May, and I got no pictures taken of me and my husband with any of our friends and their families. I've been friends with people since Kindergarten, and I've been friends with people for 6 or 7 years, and I'm closer to the ones I've known for less time. People grow apart as we grow up......maybe you two aren't as close as you used to be?
Maybe the new friend is pushy and she suggested the pictures, or perhaps the photographer suggested it. Have you been close in the last few years? I have a friend that I've known since before we went to school, but we don't talk much anymore. I still consider her a friend but like I said we don't talk much.
I would ask her about it if it really bothers you, but she probably doesn't remember half of what happened anyway if she was as stressed as most brides are. A few weeks after my wedding, my brother pointed out that when we were doing family pics, my maternal grandmother was the only one left out of the pictures when my father's family was called up. He thought she must have had her feelings hurt. I didn't even notice this, because not only was I starving and about to pass out, I was weighed down by a huge heavy dress and distracted by flashes of light, people calling my name, etc. I hardly remember anything--it was all a blur! Your friend probably was too distracted to think about what she was doing. Don't take it personally--weddings can be grueling for a bride!