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How do you know when your boyfriend has a serious porn issue?

As many know, guys can be huge pervs and most check anything out in sight...but how do you know when it's a serious problem? My boyfriend of approximately a year CONSTANTLY checks out other girls (it's completely noticeable) all the time. He subscribes to several internet sites that allows you to post personal pics(flickr is the main one!), and logs on at least 3-4 times a day..He's also created his own groups displaying pictures of girls, and has even taken pictures of girls he knows and added them to these types of sites. He admits to looking at porn occassionally...but it's completely more than occassionally. The funny thing is i'm a really good looking girl(not to be conceided)...better than he has ever had as he stands 5'4'' and 160some pounds. I'm pretty sure he has NO idea that i know half of the info i do...i lived with knowing this crap for several months and it's really bothering me and starting to affect our relationship...give me some help plz!

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Sounds like he's not sexually satisfied.
As long as the porn doesn't affect your relationship then there shouldn't be a problem. If he were to ask you to do things that they do in porn videos (the extreme stuff) then that should be a red flag.
If you are as hot as you say you are you can always leave him for me.
ok. so maybe he's a little addicted. but use this to your advantage. i let my boyfriend watch porn. thats how he comes up with new tricks. those tricks can be amazing.
Find a new boy friend. You will never change him.
This is completely normal. There is nothing to worry about. He's just being a guy. All guys act like this. It's our nature.
You answered yourself. When you do something to the extent that it inteferes with your living a normal life, it's a problem, an addiction. You stated this is bothering you and affecting your relationship. That's a problem.
sounds like hes a little boy.
I think he may have a problem based on my own experience. Why not ask him about it?
It doesn't sound like porn is the problem. It sounds like he is absolutely in love with the female body. He's not going after one girl, and these girls sound like they're clothed. I think he just really likes women in general. If you're upset by it, talk to him about it. But don't take it personally.
BREAK UP! if he is not satisfied with what he has then you deserve better.
I would say when it becomes a problem, that's when you know its a issue and needs to be addressed. Otherwise, you'll get fed up and want to leave, or cheat.
tell him that you know what has been happening, and you want to know why its happening. tell him that if he doesn't give you a straight answer, that you will leave him. because it doesn't seem like a good relationship.
Anything more than the casual viewing is a problem...and I am not sure he is aware it will cause him problems as he will lose touch with his personal emotional sensitivity to any girl....anything overdone is not good...and porn has a no win side to it if overdone...suggest that he discuss it with a counsellor if he thinks he is not overdoing it....if he refuses..do yourself a favor and look to the future...
It sounds like you have already decided the answer to your own question. It is a problem in your relationship if It bothers you so much. It would definitely bother me. I think you probably need to have a good chat with him tell him what is bothering you and what you think might help to resolve the problem. He probably won't agree with you but if you can find some middle ground and he agrees to decrease these behaviours and to make a real effort that's great. If not your man should find you to be all the sexual stimulation he needs and give him the flick.
Since it's bothering you, you really need to talk about it with him. If you can't work out some sort of arrangement that works for *both* of you, then he's not the right guy for you.
break up with him or forget it, all guys are pervs. most guys do look at porn
woah whene he starts ditching u to go see it but it already seems hes more interested in it than u i mean he created groups i think its a problem NOW!!!!
ok it would bother me that my bf would want to look at the "girls" on the internet more than he does me. I wouldn't be having it. I would tell him that it bothers you and that its starting to hurt the relationship and he needs to pay more attention to you instead of girls on the internet and if he dosent i would get rid of him. You said ur pretty you can get another guy!
I would have a big problem with all of that. He has issues and seems obsessed.
If he's a person like that, DUMP HIM DOWN THE DRAIN!!!!!! You don't want a porn freak 4 a boyfriend. Then in a while he might try to get to you. Don't let him!!! This sounds like a really screwed up relationship!
well i can understand why it bothers you i would be too . but you really need to tell him you know about it and you dont have to tell him that he has a huge problem with porn "even tho it seems he does" but that "WE" have a problem with it . its one thing to watch it together but a wholely different thing to watch it by him self ! and 2 or 4 times a day is an issue . maybe if feels he isnt getting enough ??? if what you say is true and you are fine then there shooldnt be a huge issue with him watching it and he should be more into you . you need to ask him to stop watching this all the time or include you into it . has for noticing other girls all the time that is simply our nature and cant be helped . But he can be more considerate of you and your feelings . and you need to tell him as much . hope it helps !
i know exactly what you are talking about....been there done that. its completely annoying and it always does end up affecting the relationship. and ignore people who say its not a big deal or that you must be insecure....because thats not always true. my advice to you is to confront it head on. tell him that you feel that its disrespectful and is affecting how you feel about him and the relationship. he might not get it. he might not understand what the problem is. but you decide what you settle for. there are guys out there that don't have this problem. i know, cause i've dated both kinds.
You know it's a serious issue when it's an issue for you. He is pushing you past your limit. It's not fair to you. He treats you with little respect. He blatantly looks at other girls when you are with him, and it bothers you (it would bother me too). He's not only looking at porn, but he is seeking out new 'adventure/experiences' with porn, such as creating his own groups. He doesn't seem to be able/interested in letting you take care of his needs. Most guys look at porn here and there, but there is a limit. It sounds like he's pushed you past yours. I would suggest that you confront him. Not in an angry way, but with a clear head so that you can make clear-headed decisions. There are several key factors that can make or break a relationship. One of them is feeling desired, attractive, wanted, and needed.
A year is a long time to be with some and not know he had a serious problem like addiction to porn. I would dump him BC life is too short and if you say your pretty you shouldn't have a problem getting with someone who wants to look at you more then a computer screen. Confront him and if doesn't change move on.
This is how you know when your boyfriend has a serious porn: If you see your boyfriends looking at fat girls nude,animal and human having sex, gay people having sex ( I don't girl on girl I mean guy on guy then he is gay also),or any werid kinky s h i t then that's how you he has a problem. I hope this help!!!